How to discuss residential aged care with your parents
Are you concerned that it’s becoming difficult for someone you love to continue living in their own home? Whether the condition of an illness has worsened or they're having trouble getting around the house, it could be the time to start a conversation about residential aged care.
This is a big life transition, so naturally it might be a challenging conversation to have. It's normal for parents to be resistant to moving out of the family home, but if you have the right information on hand it’s easier to ensure it's a productive conversation.
How to start a discussion about moving to a residential care home
First, understand what aged care entails because many seniors see this as a loss of independence when in fact that’s not the intention at all.
Choosing the right aged care community means that your loved one has the ability to design an individualised care plan that best suits their needs and personality. Our residential aged care homes, for example, provide each resident with a comfortable, home-like environment that supports their lifestyle and independence. The right home surrounds them with new friends, activities, healthy and nutritious food and care which makes the transition much easier for everyone.
Plant the seed early on
Start talking about the idea of aged care homes before you bring the subject up on a more personal level. Ask your loved one leading questions that would allow them to come to their own realisation that residential aged care could be a good option. Questions include:
- How are you feeling/how does your condition feel?
- Are you socialising enough/do you make time for activities?
- Would you feel more comfortable having someone else around?
- How are things going around the house? Are you tired of keeping up with housework on your own?
Evaluate who should be involved
Once it comes time to have the conversation, involve family members and friends whose opinions they value.. Bring on board those who they really listen to, and exclude those who they frequently argue with.
If you have friends or other family members already living in a residential aged care home, ask them for pointers or even bring them along.
Give options of different residential aged care communities
Doing your research in advance can relieve frustration for everyone involved. This way, you're able to find homes at which your loved one would feel most comfortable, while also presenting them with options so they don't feel like they've been left out of the decision.
It’s important to arrange to visit the homes your considering so you and your loved one can get a feel for the homes that would best suit them. During the visits you’ll be able to ask questions about transitioning and community life as they prepare to move into residential care. It's a great way to get them excited for this next chapter!
At Anglicare, we're here to support you and your loved one with our unique, personalised approach to care.
Contact our team to learn more about your residential aged care options today.
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